What if We Demanded More Love From the Media?

What if We Demanded More Love From the Media?

Last year, I attended a Media Summit in New York to talk about my book. I talked to the biggest media outlets in our country. They were very specific about the stories they wanted – It had to have an emotional/sensational, mostly liberal message. No rational, kind, “let’s try and build unity” messages allowed. (If you know me, you know that what I’d really like to do for the public is help create peace, not create separation.)

This isn’t a surprise to anyone reading this, I’m sure… but I don’t blame the people in charge of the media entirely. Why do they do it? Because WE buy it – WE read it – WE listen to it. They are giving the people what they want.

It reminds me of when my boys would fight. I would tell one of them if they stopped reacting when the other would pester them, the other would stop doing the pestering. The REACTION is why they do it. It is fun to see one’s power over others. “Hey – watch what happens when we put this headline up!” or “Ok – get ready for the huge hailstorm coming that this headline or story will cause.” And in the “journalist” world – it’s “he who gets the biggest response, wins” – Not “he who tells the story in a more accurate and level-headed way.” Nope. That thought does not exist in the media world.

It is supply and demand, what gets the most views, and what really gets the public amped up and talking. Imagine a world where we got more amped up about how to love more? How to work together phenomenally? What if the news that really got people going was largely about beautiful acts of unity instead of drastic acts of separation and cruelty? 

I think we should make love & togetherness popular, as much as possible. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

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3 Steps to Dealing with Curveballs

3 Steps to Dealing with Curveballs

Life has a way of throwing us the unexpected – just when we least expect it! We have a plan or a path, and then suddenly, something shows up that we did not put there… and it throws us off.

I’ve learned (and continue to deepen that learning) to not be surprised with those “curveballs.” When unforeseen situations happen, I turn to this 3-step process for dealing with it:

1. Immediately identify WHAT I’m feeling. It could be anger, jealousy, resentment, anxiety, worry, sadness, (fill in the blank.)

2. Do some deep breathing and move my perspective to SEEING the situation (I put mine up on a movie screen) instead of BEING IN the situation. (My current emotional state.)
This really helps take the emotional sting out of it and it helps me see a bigger view of what is going on.

3. I can see from this vantage point that there is usually an unmet expectation. And I have a choice to stay attached to my expectation or manage, adjust, or eliminate it all together, in order to help me feel better.

This is key! 
During my recent trip to Sesimbra, Portugal, I experienced a big shift in plans, unexpectedly. What I went there for was not what I ended up doing there, and I had to shift, manage my expectations, and go with the flow. And it is ALL GOOD!

Where in your life have you had to adjust or completely disregard your expectations? Share in the comments.

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If This Happens, Then I’ll Be Happy

If This Happens, Then I’ll Be Happy

How often do you think along the lines of – “If this would happen, then I’ll be happy” or “When this happens, then I’ll be happy?” I call this “fantasy.” It’s the thought that either IF something was different or WHEN something happens – THEN I’ll finally be happy!

I watch for this in myself because it has bit me many times. My mom always taught me that nothing is as good OR as bad as we think it will be. It’s our expectation that needs to be managed in any case. To believe that something outside of ourselves will bring us long-term peace or happiness is a myth. It’s an “inside job.”

Which “if ____, then I’ll be happy” or “when ____ happens, then I’ll be happy” thoughts do you have?

This is Why I Do What I Do

This is Why I Do What I Do

There have been many times that I have dealt with the negative feelings that are triggered when I compared myself to others. It was an automatic feeling of shame (flight message), where I wanted to run and hide.

When friends or family would notice and inquire about my melancholy – if I felt free to confide my feelings to them – I would be met with the overwhelming responses, such as, “Kim, you’re unique in your own way”….or “what are you talking about, Kim? You are amazing!”… blah blah blah!

Do you think “little Kimmy” could hear those reassurances? Nope! Because these emotional “firings” were not forged in my logical or reasonable brain.

They were created in a BIGGER “real world” in the amazing imagination of a child.

That’s where my work is focused. Recreating in the world of the imagination in order to un-wire and re-wire from a new and much truer TRUTH!

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What Brings Me Joy – Video Blog

What Brings Me Joy – Video Blog

Are you trapped into making others happy at your expense? Are you struggling to lose weight and continue beating yourself up?

The hottest thing on Netflix right now is Marie Kondo and her approach to getting rid of things that don’t spark joy for you. When I heard about this I got really excited. I couldn’t help but think it was a great way to clean up your thoughts as well!

In this video blog I share tips on how to identify what brings you joy and apply the Marie Kondo philosophy to all of your life.