If This Happens, Then I’ll Be Happy

If This Happens, Then I’ll Be Happy

How often do you think along the lines of – “If this would happen, then I’ll be happy” or “When this happens, then I’ll be happy?” I call this “fantasy.” It’s the thought that either IF something was different or WHEN something happens – THEN I’ll finally be happy!

I watch for this in myself because it has bit me many times. My mom always taught me that nothing is as good OR as bad as we think it will be. It’s our expectation that needs to be managed in any case. To believe that something outside of ourselves will bring us long-term peace or happiness is a myth. It’s an “inside job.”

Which “if ____, then I’ll be happy” or “when ____ happens, then I’ll be happy” thoughts do you have?

This is Why I Do What I Do

This is Why I Do What I Do

There have been many times that I have dealt with the negative feelings that are triggered when I compared myself to others. It was an automatic feeling of shame (flight message), where I wanted to run and hide.

When friends or family would notice and inquire about my melancholy – if I felt free to confide my feelings to them – I would be met with the overwhelming responses, such as, “Kim, you’re unique in your own way”….or “what are you talking about, Kim? You are amazing!”… blah blah blah!

Do you think “little Kimmy” could hear those reassurances? Nope! Because these emotional “firings” were not forged in my logical or reasonable brain.

They were created in a BIGGER “real world” in the amazing imagination of a child.

That’s where my work is focused. Recreating in the world of the imagination in order to un-wire and re-wire from a new and much truer TRUTH!

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