How often do you think along the lines of – “If this would happen, then I’ll be happy” or “When this happens, then I’ll be happy?” I call this “fantasy.” It’s the thought that either IF something was different or WHEN something happens – THEN I’ll finally be happy!

I watch for this in myself because it has bit me many times. My mom always taught me that nothing is as good OR as bad as we think it will be. It’s our expectation that needs to be managed in any case. To believe that something outside of ourselves will bring us long-term peace or happiness is a myth. It’s an “inside job.”

Which “if ____, then I’ll be happy” or “when ____ happens, then I’ll be happy” thoughts do you have?